why does everything have to be so hard???

Warning, minor rant here. I was diagnosed recently with osteoporosis and have been gathering information on next steps. I want to explore HRT (among other things) but my NP didn't sound knowledgeable/confident about using it at my age (I'm 65 and never did HRT before). So, through posts here I zeroed in on finding a functional medicine person in my network. The first 4 I tried aren't seeing new patients. The 5th is, but soonest she can see me is december 2027 (not a typo). Next, I thought okay how about endocrinology. First, almost none of those coming up in my insurance's care directory are accepting new clients. One that is has terrible reviews. The other said I need to get a referral from my PCP. So, now I'm back to dealing with my NP again. Why is getting care so f'ing hard? It's been almost 3 weeks since my diagnosis and I'm still at square 1 for finding care. Paying Dr. Doug (or some other concierge doc) $14k is starting to sound like a good idea, that's how desperate I'm starting to feel (And no, I can't afford that...). Seriously you guys - how did you find people to take care of you?