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Pain management and life expectancy stage 4 mestasized to bones
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@surftohealth88 thank you so much for the kind words. Through the entire 4 years of treatment he did great and even continued to work. 2 weeks ago he was hurting in his pelvic area and hip, had a pet scan and today being told it’s in your entire body was such a shock! He still thinks he will be going back to work on Monday. I don’t know if he is in denial or just that stubborn. I have to admit he had me convinced he was going to beat cancer until the last few weeks and realized the worst is about to happen. I am a wreck! I don’t know what to do how to plan and most of all how to be supportive for him.
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@debbie02
My husband deals with his cancer the same way and since you asked how to support him I can only share what I do - I let him be in denial and do all research by myself and am trying with all my might not to show all of my sadness that is some days truly overwhelming. I cry when he is not around and smile when he is around.
I make sure that he takes all of his medications and supplements and that he makes timely appointments and ask from doctors for things that he needs. I am not only protecting him from dealing with cancer - I am protecting myself since seeing him "normal and happy" is the ONLY thing that is keeping me sane. So let him go to work, let him do whatever he wishes, he will stop when he feels that he can not do it any more - he will know.
It is very hard to plan this way for anything long run, inclooding financial matters but you know what - I do not care. We can not control what will happen and when will it happen in general, so the only thing that I can do is to make sure that he lives his life fully and the way that he likes it (which for PC patients can last from just years to even decades with no particular rime nor reason ).
I hope really that you have some family members or friends that can offer you some help and shoulder to cry. 💗 For me prayers also offer comfort and hope even though I am not tremendously religious person but I am very spiritual person and prayers help me with keeping my sanity intact.
Sending you hugssss and wishing you peace and strength to endure those most trying times ✨🌺.