Is anxiety and cognitive fuzziness part of loss?

I'm so sorry to hear of the death of your husband--it is a terrible loss. Grief seems to vary person to person, but when my first husband died as a young man I was so confused and distracted that I'd drive past my own house without recognizing it and have to circle the block back. I was very disoriented, overwhelmed, and ungrounded. I also was not eating or sleeping well, which did not help. I experienced the first 3-4 months as a kind of shock. It wasn't that I didn't realize and accept that he was dead, it was just that my entire system was flooded with grief. Mercifully this did wear off. Do you like to write or draw? I find that keeping a I-line a day journal helped me track/understand how I was doing. When I was too upset to write I'd just make a little collage from colored paper and glue it in the notebook. What kinds of things are you interested in and able to do to help yourself? Walking can be very helpful. Will be thinking of you.

I'm experiencing memory issues since my father passed 3 months ago. I really think it is related. I have an enormous amount of stress along with grief. My son is worried. I'd like to hear from more people, too.

cece55, I think it is normal. Does your body goes into shock to protect your mind from an unbearable loss. We depend upon routine to be able to function at all. Be patient and gentle with yourself; your thoughts will clear.

I lost my husband of 56 1/2 years on May just 45 days after he was diagnosed with no symptoms of a grade 4 Glioblastoma brain tumor. I had a full shoulder replacement surgery just 5 days prior to him having a seizure and going to the hospital. I was not able to drive or even bathe myself so depended on friends and family to help me. There are days I don't seem to even remember and we never had the chance to talk since he was non verbal the majority of those days. My children are encouraging me to think about leaving our home and relocating but I can't even bare to go through his clothes yet, much less think about leaving our home which makes me feel like my safe place. I actually discussed this with my GP who says there is definitely a condition known as brain fog where you can under emotional stress develop. I do keep a daily journal which helps and talk to him even though I realize he isn't there.

My dear husband died 3 months ago and I am experiencing exactly what you are. I have been crying since I got out of bed this morning. I truly know how you feel, my heart goes out to you. I walk into the kitchen and have no idea why I did. I knew he was very ill and I would look at him and think I never want to forget your face.

All I can say is just try to stay busy, talk to people, even talk to him. Last night I was going through pictures we had taken on vacations, many on discs and wondering why since now there is no one but me to look at them and doing so just makes me want him to be back SO much. I truly know your pain but try to look at it as how fortunate you were to have each other and how much love you must have had to have this pain. I have seen friends who have lost their significant other and were able to go on without them. I feel sorry for them since their love must not have been as strong as what we shared. One step forward each day.

I lost my spouse over a month ago! The things I have noticed is going through different things and feeling later whether I remembered conversations, tasks that are needed to be taken care after they are gone.. I feel like I am in a fog or a bad dream! Sometimes the water works start or I just think, why? I know he is not suffering anymore because of his past illnesses! He was a loving, caring and a thoughtful man! I know he loved me and I loved him! It still makes me so vulnerable to not being my former self. It takes me longer to finish things I would have done immediately! It feels like the world is moving on and I am standing still and frozen in time! Sadness is such an immobilizing emotion that I have never felt to this degree! I have comfort that he is not suffering anymore and with the rest of our family .. I imagine what he looked like the first time we met! You know, butterfly’s in your stomach and feeling like we were meant to be together! But the sadness has been present more than ever for him to just talk or tell me something sweet or call me his sweetheart! Everyone grieves in different ways and hide a lot of those types of feelings from others! I read some of your comments! It is comforting to know others feel some of the same feelings! I just wanted to let you know u are not alone!