@gently perhaps.. but after I've told them and been to ER 30 times ..2 in an ambulance..once with a blood pressure of 60 0ver 40.. looks like they'd get a hint after 6 1/ 2 years.. and I moved to Oklahoma and after 36 years out here.. my younger sister (about 60 then).. decided to visit me..she and hubby were on a "road trip".. I said I am so sorry I am soo sick and in so much pain I can't open the gate.. they came anyway and left and messaged me how cute my 2 yard dogs were..and what they ate afterwards..Hmmm..everyone out here said perhaps were sizing up what she would inherit as I have no children..last year her husband passed (i lost 2 one 30 years ago and one 15) and she said just TOD the property to your boyfriend..(yes I have one..I'm 72..) ..and basically don't bother me..I won't come out there for your funeral..I'll pick up all the genealogy later..much later.. (years of my and my Aunt Peggys' work)..ok..I think she knew enough.. as I sit here completely hived up from IDK what I ate wrong again waiting on getting a Xolair shot..so perhaps you're right.. I don't know how anyone could have missed it..I dropped from 140 to 98 lbs..sorry for the rash response.. ..I know too much.. unfortunately..if I had a dime for every time someone sluffed me off ..when I tried to talk to them,I'd be rich... therefore I give it to Jesus .. HIs burden is light.. and just talk "happy" to everyone.. 🙂 have a wonderful day!!