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I think that when I accepted that, barring a miracle from God, I would live with a particular issue until I die, I felt more at peace with it, though I'm still learning to make adjustments to my attitude and my lifestyle.

Jim

i am still wondering if i can forgive my sisters. i think they have also inherited some of the mental disease and with the parents allowing them to do what they did certainly did not help.. even with proper medication and counseling some people just like who and what they are will never change. they enjoy their actions. so be it. there are still a million stories in the big city and on this (and other) planets. love yourself first then you can spread it around.

@peach To forgive does not mean you must hang around with your sisters or you haven't really forgiven them. Forgiveness is more for you. To me, forgiveness means I stop rabidly hating the person, and I do not want to seek revenge in any manner. (Justice is not the same as revenge.) And perhaps there are other aspects of forgiveness that can bring peace. But it most certainly does not mean I must be able to have a relationship with or even talk to a person who abused me in any manner. This goes to verbal abuse as well as it can be just as damaging in my opinion. Even if your sisters are unwilling to change, you can still give yourself the peace of forgiving them. I have forgiven my dad, but I never want to see him again nor will I bother myself with attending his funeral when he dies. And realizing he was mentally ill and making a choice to forgive does not mean anything he did was ok nor does it negate the horrors he dealt to me and my sisters. The forgiveness was for my peace, not his.

i do agree with you. thanks for caring. and just a little note of one of many items my sisters have done since the passing of our parents. ....when my husband died i took in 2 boarders to make ends meet. my sister called my ex employers so to have my pension revoked. i was not to work because i retired on a disability pension. but....guess what? this was considered as passive income. so it was allowed. my sisters to this day are still the same which is why i have nothing to do with them. it is a wonderful thing to be different from them. i am proud of myself.

@peach. You should definitely be proud of yourself! Your sisters sound like real jerks. I do not blame you for having nothing to do with them. You are so much better off without those toxic relationships! You are a remarkable woman!

again, you are right. what they did is criminal. ohhh, you should know the whole story. it gets so gross and again what a book it would make. but who wants to read this the horror fans? the last straw was how they set her up to not be buried where she set her affairs to be placed. i corrected that at the end. difficult to believe that they would take away where she would be buried. yes, she was a horror to us but one has to be criminally insane to do what they did to her. i

Totally agree with you! Glad you were able to overcome so much to be the kind woman you are today.