@parus

I know of other therapists who have abused their position. A friend of mine was seduced by his male therapist. One of my therapists told me I should leave my wife. I didn't go back to that one. Most of the ones I've seen have been good. But my experience is only mine, and I don't expect it to be the same as anyone else's.

Broken trust wreaks havoc on lives. It takes time, effort, support and forgiveness, and a lot of them, to rebuild trust. I guess you can tell I've been through that process with a number of people. It's hard.

If I understand you right, you're afraid of what the former therapist might do to you and your family. Have you ever gotten a restraining order? That's surely no way to live. I'm sorry you were traumatized and continue to live with the fallout.

I hope you will sense the caring support that's available to you in this group. Each of us has a painful history of some kind, and that enables us to relate to each other. Hang on, Parus.

Jim

@jimhd You mentioned a restraining order...waste of time as unless caught in violation thereof...this now pastoral counselor (alternative therapy, you know) would find this type of thing a challenge and more entertainment for her sick game. I have discussed this w/ those specially trained in these types of activities -leave a paper trail again.

@parus

By pastoral counselor, do you mean she is a minister? If so, and she's done all of this to you, being kind of cynical, I might question her calling and credentials. I'm a retired pastor, but I did very little counseling because I wasn't qualified.

Jim

Yup, she has a Doctorate of Divinity which she had when she was playing games with me...just not sure which divinity...could have meant fudge. Also illegal to call herself doctor. BTW, there was nothing she was not qualified for in her mind (?). I am being downright snide!! I best stop with my inappropriateness. Never know where that pervert may be lurking. Not here as fb is more her speed.

Thing is as an alternative counselor she cannot bill insurance companies...yet. I am not making fun, but the whole thing was ludicrous and these are the kind that make a mockery of the mental health system and Chritianity--- until it hit the OAG...now those were professionals. They wanted her OUT!!!

Still asking self-"why me?" Thanks for asking.

@parus

Of course, those DD's can be purchased online and by mail for a price. Fudge - good one!

I don't know what OAG is. I'm sure that any legit organization would want her out.

"Why me?" is an oft asked question, though usually has no good answer, so the next question becomes "Where do I go from here?".

It looks from your avatar that you like horses.

Jim

@jimhd OAG = Office of Attorney General...The Professional Licensing Agency making up the panel were a most impressive group.

As to where to I go? I know I do not want to go to testify at the OAG as a resident of the state...I was not nervous or scared as I was not the one in trouble. Why me-Why not? I had a job to do and her ship was sunk by her own words and the fact that she lied under oath at the 1st hearing.

My avatar is a detail of one of my watercolors. I do like horses although I can no longer ride and after being a wrangler for 2.00 head in WY I am spoiled. Lived my dream for a few years.

Off the topic of PTSD. I stay a way from things I know can trigger it. There are times I do get blind-sided. A doctor suggested I see a therapist-OOPS!

I have gotten to where I can pretty much ground myself-mostly I am a loner. Not seeking pity.

For now I am here. Thanks to those here for allowing me to share some about what my PTSD is about. The other things I cannot mention as I don't want to go there.

@parus

I know about not baring my soul to whomever. There are a few things that are between me and God, and things that are between me and God and my wife and my therapist. I don't think Mayo has groups for those things, anyway.

Jim

I'm so sorry @parus for all that you have gone through. Especially with your therapist, someone you trusted. That is so wrong what she is doing. I'm glad her license were suspended. You should not have to put up with that kind of treatment. You might contact the behavioral science regulatory board in your area, if that's what it's called in your state. I had a very negative experience with a psychologist many years ago, and he had his license suspended for a time because of his treatment of me.
I can sure understand your not thinking there is help out there, but I want to encourage you to continue to try to find a therapist who has your best interest in mind and that you feel safe and comfortable with. I went years without seeing a therapist after my negative experience, but out of determination to feel better, I started looking for someone again and was fortunate to find a very caring and ethical one. Because there ARE good ones out there too! Best of luck!

i would like to put my 2 cents into this please. i agree with all of you. have experienced this first hand. most (or all) of these (people) have many different kinds of mental defects. after they get a degree in these areas it gives them the privelage to abuse people with such enjoyment. realize where they are coming from, know that they know what they are doing or trying to do to you. there are many of these people on this planet. sometimes they are caught. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND SHAME ON THEM. YOU ARE IMPORTANT TO YOURSELF AND TO THE WORLD. (WHAT A SHAME IT IS FOR THE VERY WONDERFUL AND CARING THERAPISTS). with love peachbarb

@parus

I like the tiny taste of your watercolors. It would be nice to see more. I imagine it's good therapy, though it's not something I've ever tried. I find knitting therapeutic, as well as gardening, playing the piano, going to church, housepainting, shopping (especially thrift stores) and going for drives.

Jim