Hi Marianne,
I'm so sorry that you have these awful sores and can't get rid of them. That's awful! I've had sores in the past and my Mom had a natural home remedy that helped get rid of them. Take a piece of bread, perferably white, and cut it the size of the sore. Dip it in some whole milk. Squeeze it so it isn't drippy. Put the bread on a bandaid and put it on your sore. Leave it on overnight. It will take away any itching or pain and the yeast in the bread will take out any infection that might be there. It worked great for me when I was a kid and I'm still using it now when I'm 80. I hope it helps.

I also have incontinence like you do. Poise pads work well for that.

Prayer also helps. God made you and he can fix you! I'll say a prayer for you too.
I wish you the best.
PML