@top1sgt, you're quite right that no one can tell another person what they should do or that you have to fight. Everyone has their own story and right to make choices. @randallshields56's comment was not directed to you, but sharing his experiences and the choices he has made.

For everyone:
As I do from time to time, I'd like to remind everyone of the Community Guidelines https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/about-connect/tab/community-guidelines/ In particular, I'd like to underline guidelines number 4
4. Respect all members.
- Use respectful language. Profanity, offensive language, and abusive comments are not allowed.
- Treat others with respect, even when you disagree.
- Disagreement is okay, but personal attacks are not. Personal attacks will be removed.
- Be inclusive. Do not assume others share your beliefs or want religious guidance.

The guiding priniciples of Mayo Clinic Connect create a community that is safe, supportive, inclusive, and respectful. Naturally, we only have words to communicate without the benefit of enhancing our messages with tone of voice or body language.