Hi:
My repeated phrase in my head, when things aren't going well is, 'Be a better person' that I say when I'm feeling bad about blowing up at my husband and losing my temper at some behavior that he can't control.
I try many different things in the moment:
-remind myself of the nuggets I've learned at training, and if a few strategies don't work I...
-walk away after ensuring my husband is in a safe space, if I find myself losing my temper
-find something I like to do, like baking or watching a Rom Com
-journal or read
-go outside and breathe
-pet our dog
All the best to you. 🌺