@readytogo
I am so sorry to hear that you are having such difficulties with your doctor. I understand that your family has been seeing this doctor but that doesn't mean that you need to continue if you are feeling uncomfortable, unheard, or belittled. The doctor's job is to listen to their patient and advise them as to how to proceed. You should never feel that you're not being heard. Have you looked into switching doctors? Do you have transportation if you were to change doctors? Is this your primary care doctor? If so, have you thought of seeing a doctor who specializes in autism and ADHD? I have a so, Keegan, who has autism, cerebral palsy, and epilepsy. I have had to personally fire several doctors because of the same reasons. They were not listening to me, they thought I was being overprotective, they couldn't see what I saw with my son. This was years ago when he still had a pediatrician. He is now 28 and has wonderful doctors. You have every right to be the best advocate for yourself and to feel comfortable with your physician. I wish you all the luck! Feel free to reach out anytime.
Kerry