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husband with off again, on again cognitive impairment, stressful
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 3 days ago | Replies (31)Comment receiving replies
@theglobalnomad1
For me, taking away my husband's debit and credit cards, and getting him to 'voluntarily' surrender his driver's license, was a screaming episode on my part with tears and yelling and an absolute insistence that this was the way things had to be because his brain was not giving him correct info and we need to be safe on the road and keep others safe (he has anosognosia, so has no awareness of his issues, which makes all this exponentially harder).
He didn't yell during this process, he just gave his usual flat affect facial expression and probably wondered why his wife was screaming and crying. Nearly getting killed by a demented driver is awful, I nearly threw up. Financial abuse is also scary; he still reports that his debit and credit cards are missing.
So, this process of taking away his independence has been heartbreaking but necessary, and I HATE making every decision by myself. It's very lonely.
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@judimahoney I am finding the whole process to be heartbreaking. My husband is still in relatively early stages of MCI but I am seeing more small changes every 6 months or so. He has ordered various things off a menu then claims he got the wrong order, even though In heard what he ordered. His memory and word retrieval is worse, and dealing with technology is horrible. Every night there is an issue with the remote control for the tv. Every time something doesn't work properly, from operator error, he think the item is broken and we need to buy a new one.
Yesterday I brought up the power of attorney issue for the future and he became very upset. He wouldn't talk to me for 24 hours. He said I wanted to control all of the money.
All I can say is that I feel for everyone...This is not easy!
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@judimahoney oh, Judith, I am so scared of that, but more scared of what could happen if I just let it go. You are in my prayers and I thank you for the support and suggestions. Thank God for the whole community. It's like we're all kinda stumbling thru this, but knowing we're not alone helps.