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Caregiver for stroke patient: Anyone experiencing burnout?
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My wife had a stroke 9 years ago I am her caregiver. I also have a daughter that is intecually impaired that also needs help. I find myself sometimes not been able to cope with both of them. My wife and myself have been married for 45 years. She can talk but has not got full use of her left hand side of body. I need to do everything for her dressing cleaning etc. I also keep the house clean and do all the cooking. I findyself at times wishing that I could do more to improve the quality of life my wife and daughter have but am unable to do so. Is there anyone going through the same situation that can give me some advice.
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@gavfairlands, You are doing a wonderful thing taking care of both of them! That's admirable and a lot of work. I was my husband's caregiver when he had lung cancer. We were getting up 3 times a night when he had breathless attacks and had to use his nebulizer. He needed me to set it up for him. That was very tiring on both of us. But we loved each other as I'm sure you love your wife and daughter. Tell them both how much you love them. There may be a time when you can't tell them that. My husband died in 2024. I'm so glad that we told each other how much we loved each other. We also prayed together. Give all your problems up to God. He'll handle them for you. I'll say a prayer for all three of you.
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Hi @gavfairlands, and welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. You've had a lot on your plate, taking care of an intellectually impaired daughter and your wife who had a stroke.
I moved your post here so that you could chat with others who have been caregivers for stroke patients and potentially an intellectually impaired individual:
- Caregiver for stroke patient: Anyone experiencing burnout? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/caregiver-3
Please know this is not meant to "diagnose" you with burnout in any way, but I thought that you'd meet others in this thread who might have helpful input for you.
Hoping members will have ideas on how to improve the quality of life your daughter and wife have presently. Please meet @grrranny @lylii @vijay26 and others here in this discussion.
What are you feeling is lacking in the quality of life for your daughter and wife presently, gavfairlands?