@edh1 Life is too short. We did the best of our abilities when they were younger. Our daughters are adults now and do have choice. I see part of it as their pain, needing to lash out. I'm not sure what my daughter's pain is. It is difficult to look inward. Perhaps for her remaining status quo is easier. My life is filled with the joy of my other daughter, grandchild, my friends etc. I am grateful for what I do have.