@heavyphil

Trust - well it has nothing to do with control, trust has to be earned. ; )

So far every single step that was suggested and taken proved to be wrong, so tough luck trusting in our case. Actually, if I trusted doctors I would have lost my husband two times by now for 2 different medical conditions. The first one was dismissed as “heartburn” and the other as “viral infection” and if did not take my husband to ER the first time around with correct suspicion that he is having cardiac event and the second time me taking him to ENT specialist and insisting on biopsy, he would have been possibly dead by now TWICE (god forbid).

Anyway, just the fact that we have no idea if the groin node is cancer or not makes having a correct “plan” and approach basically impossible on a get go.

But one can not jump out of one's skin, what will be will be, I am just trying to make sure that I did everything possible to find him the best care and know that I did all that I could have done and everything that was possible to do.

How will things turn out to be at the and is out of my “control”, that is for sure … *sigh 😔

PS: Thanks Phil for reassuring me about neuroendocrine RO - yes, that is the only saving grace in all of this and the very thing that I am now "holding onto". That and the fact that this young RO of ours did not have big ego and sought opinion of his colleague.