@georgescraftjr I don't really trust anyone else. I am her POA and she is still somewhat compitent, although for how long, I do not know. Tennessee has very limited resources, so much so, that I, myself, went without any health insurance for several years. Also, my mom's sisters are still alive and neither have dementia, so they are also able to help. I am going to call her doctor's office (her GP) and ask if she has any advice on getting her in. My mother is terrified of water and has been from a young age. Since she got dementia, she dreads the shower. It is psychological. My brother and I are not going to tell her about her next appointment, that way, she can't call and cancel. I may need to drive there and insist that she get ready, which will be a fight but I am learning to just not fight with her. She bathes like she did when she was a kid. Her father was a farmer and they had no running water or electricity until she was in junior highschool. She bathes with a washcloth and soap and washes her hair in the sink. This is so difficult. Taking it one day at a time and trying very hard to keep myself in the present moment is helpful although as you know, not easy. I appreciate your suggestion and if I get to the point that I am too physically ill to do this, I now have an alternative. Thank you for the reply.