@jenniferhunter thank you very much for your message.
As I had to clarify with @lisalucier above, I am very recent with my surgeries. I need to preface anything I say with the fact that my bilateral surgery was only recently completed on 3/30-3/31/2026. My Laminectomy was performed on 5/19/2026 and I am still in the care of my surgeon.
As I Google more, along with your personal experience, it is beginning to set in that I may be rushing things a bit. However, I had to go to the emergency room on three separate occasions following my initial bilateral surgery as the pain in my legs was simply too much to bear. Yet another problem that my surgeon did not warn me about prior.
This past month and a half have certainly been a struggle, and due to my recovery issues, so much has fallen into my wife's lap to handle as I physically cannot. As a previously fairly healthy 6'4 250lb man, I am not accustomed to losing my independence and relying on others for support.
Thank you for the link for MFR. I will have MUCH to discuss with my surgeon at my follow up visit on 6/8, and MFR is now added to my growing list. Thank you again and I hope only the best for your continued non-surgical prognosis.
@maldrichm I understand. Independence is valuable and difficult when you loose it and need to rely on someone else. I really went through that when I broke my ankle. All of this healing takes patience and the will to keep healing and maintaining your hope that you can do it. Pain is a tough one, but you can use your mental abilities to overcome some of that too. I did a lot with deep breathing and listening to relaxing music that I loved. I used this tactic anytime I was at an appointment and needed to calm my nerves or was in a lot f pain. I had practiced it so much that I could do this in my head anywhere and replay the music from memory in my head. Being upset or scared will increase pain and sometimes by a lot. If you learn to control your response to this type of situation it can help. If you need the emergency room, you need it and should accept medical help. You can use this relaxing method to compliment anything you are experiencing.
It sounds like you are prepared for a productive conversation with your surgeon. Good for you!