@daveshaw thanks Dave. I do get it. We went together for 13 years before marrying. The big change came upon his retiring. He is 8 years older than I am.
I do consider my options. Fortunately I did quite intensive therapy after my divorce. I did learn to truly think about what I am compromising and why. I do lead a very independent life. I had just imagined things would be more shared or having companionship. Again, I do have a very full life and many good friends. In my therapy I did learn I don't want to be "in the taking care of" business. I know some view that as cold or hardcore. I do take care of myself. It's not always easy. I appreciate honesty and bluntness.
ps. I have told him he is married to his depression.