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As a caregiver, what helps you the most?

Caregivers | Last Active: Jun 16 11:17pm | Replies (74)

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@naturalebyjas My first thought when I read this was "If I just had the time to read this, I WOULD be happier." LOL Friends who do this probably read it and feel enlightened so they have to share. They have no concept because they have never been challenged by burdens that steal your free time. I frequently explain to friends THEY should read these books so they can apply them if they reach a point where they have challenges without time to read. I understand and have felt your frustration.

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@cjme Oh, my goodness! You hit a nerve in me. It’s like a dentist that hits an aching tooth while probing your mouth. You said, “They have no concept because they have never been challenged by burdens that steal your free time.” Hello??? Wake up friends and family. If I hear one more person tell me that I need to remember that caregivers need care too, I’m going to scream. They say this from afar and then walk away. As my dear husband becomes less capable, I have to be more capable. Mornings start early, often before 6 AM. My plans to take time for myself to shower or watch some of my favorite programs in the evening had to be scrapped three times this week. The evenings didn’t end until after 8:30 PM when my husband was tucked in bed and I finally felt like I was off duty. One night it was 9:15 PM. Thank you for listening to my rant. All of you are saying the same thing. If you haven’t walked this road that we have been given to travel, you do not even have a clue. If you are a friend or family member, offer a meal. Come sit with my LO while I shower and wash my hair. Bring by a small bouquet of flowers or sit for 10 or 15 minutes. Open yourself to listening to what I and others are struggling with. Just let me know I am not alone.