I'm not sure we ever find balance in this disease. It's mind-boggling to me at times. Sitting at dinner, my husband could converse like his "old self" with the restaurant owner, it was like an "awakening" and I was amazed to see and hear him. Then fast forward the next day, he was back to trying to work through something, having difficulty in sequencing his thoughts, in his mind and on paper, with somewhat of a blank stare that day. Certainly not the same man that was sitting at the table intelligently conversing with the owner. It's just so up and down, to where one minute you think, he's back, and then he's gone. That book "Loving Someone with Dementia," about ambiguous loss and just working in "gray matter" vs. black and white, is dead on. Now how does anyone find balance in that? I guess...one day at a time. Happy Sunday caregivers.....Best, Karla