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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
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Well, it's nice to know I'm not alone!
We are both 90, my Bride and I, and together for over 70 years. She was diagnosed with dementia in 2023, and we have Long Term Care insurance, and we've had a care giver five days a week, so I can do things, and not worry. The driving is a big problem. She will not go back to the Geriatrician, as she says the Dr. is in league with the Life Plan Community, to get people to sign up, and she constantly berates me for taking her to the geriatrician, in the first place. Her PCP made the referral. I have told her she would have to go through an assessment, in order to drive, but she doesn't want to do that. The last time she started in on me, about her driving, I lost it, and shouted at her. I really felt bad, after that. So far she hasn't brought it up again. Her PCP has said he would rat her out to the State and have her license revoked, but I held him off, for now. She is the smartest person I've ever known, and it is crushing to see her fading away.
Tom
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@n82821 No you are not alone, in this journey. First up, congrats on 70 years. WOW, that's amazing. and double congrats on long term care insurance. that gives me some assurance. As for the driving, I wouldn't feel bad about shouting about driving - you did it out of love. The driving is a big thing, because I see it in my own husband, his reflexes/judgement just arent' the same, so I'm doing all the highway driving. Even with that, they could have an accident and cause a death, a follow on lawsuit, and then a cascade of issues over someone driving who's been diagnosed with dementia. Without insurance, it could wipe your financial out, even with a personal umbrella policy or whatever, just the stress associated with lawyers and the like at our age. My husband is smart too, but "not smart" when it comes to wanting to give up his independence with driving. Best, Karla
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Thank you for all of the hugs!
Tom