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How do you find balance while caregiving?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jun 18 2:37pm | Replies (48)Comment receiving replies
@bayviewgal Please do not blame yourself for this horrible disease. You did the best you could and we as spouses of a cognitive impaired spouse need to be so much more involved with everything. We have to take care of our own level of patience and be kind to ourselves because we are the ones doing it all and they need us there so we need to take care of ourselves in order to take care of them. It's tough, it's sad and every couple has to find their own way to get through it. No guilt, no blame - only job well done good and faithful servant.💕💪☮️
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@oneputt Thank you for your kind words. You're right, I DID do the best I could and am glad I was here with him and for him during his dark journey...and mine. I ask myself if I had to do it all over again, would I? And the answer is... you darn right I would! Tom was the love of my life during our short lived marriage and some of my best memories were to be able to take care of him and help him with his struggles and help ease the "pain".
Strength, Peace and Hugs
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@oneputt It's so true what you post. Doing the best we can, trying to figure out how to take care of US while we are immersed with them. It's just a narcissistic disease - me, me, me or I should say them, them, them - and there really is so little we can do about it. After an exhausting week, we went to bed at 9:30 last night and before we got in bed, he started again, about his doctor's appointment the next day. All I could say, was "Not tonight, Eddie. Not tonight. This is about me tonight, turning the lights off and in US getting sleep." In the middle of it all, I had clarity. Sleep.
Best, Karla