@bobcmcc I wish my husband would have/could have done more. Even the littlest things, like folding laundry...run a vacuum, plate his own food etc. He would give em a try and the struggles were hard to watch so I would end up doing it for him. I wish now I would have let him struggle a little bit more to see how far he could get but my impatience took over and I ended up doing it for him. Which didn't benefit either one of us, because i was doing everything. I just couldn't keep watching him struggle... so was me taking over benefiting me or him? And then as time went on, he didn't even want to try anymore. I don't know if it was because he couldn't remember or would just rather not because it WAS a struggle for him. I feel if I would have just let him keep trying maybe his dementia wouldn't have progressed so fast, cuz then he would have had to still use the little he had left of his memory. I guess I look back on it and i feel I was responsible for some of his brain atrophy. He passed away a few months ago and if I had to do this all over again, I would have let him do more and for me to step back a little bit.