Such a difficult situation. In the 3 months you will be in hospital, does that mean acute care facility for 3 months solid, or a lesser form of care, i.e. nursing home? Depending upon the setting, it MIGHT be possible to have your wife there as well? Otherwise, finding a care facility for temporary respite stay will likely be a good solution. For my mom, I began to use a care facility for respite stays, partly to allow me to get things done that I needed to (travel, visit, etc) but also to begin the preparation for ultimate placement. That proved to be a really good process. I was honest with the facilities that I needed some short stay placements in the here and now, but also wanted to begin the process of introducing her to care facilities. The facilities were very much in favor of such a "plan" and it made the eventual move into a care facility less of an adjustment for my mom, and for me as well.