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YES! Sitting sucks! I live in Mpls and our sons and fams live in WA. We fly out 3-4 times a year. Ugh. I have two cushions that fold in half that I bought on Amazon that go Everywhere with me. Being female and carrying a purse or small backpack, it’s easy to put the smaller one in there. But regardless, I don’t care. That cushion goes Everywhere with me and I don’t care what people think. I simply can’t sit on wood or metal chairs or benches. But again, my PT has taught me very specific exercises and stretches to help loosen my glutes, hip flexors etc. plus internal work (yup- I know it sounds weird but it works) to soften internal trigger points. And I practice breathing techniques to help calm me wherever I go. So I do go to plays, movies, festivals etc. but I am mindful of my limits and listen to my body. If my bum has had enough, I head home. I’ve worked hard to train my brain that I can do these things and enjoy them while still taking care of myself, and being O.K. with having limits. My family and friends understand. I can absolutely feel your frustration. It is so limiting, embarrassing, frustrating, and socially awkward. It’s hard to describe how this condition can literally wreck you. Everybody else can SIT no problem!!!!!!! Again, been there, felt that, done that. When I finally stopped chasing another “cure” and learned to create my own toolbox of self- help techniques, things got better. It might be time to turn in a different direction and begin learning to like/love your body again instead feeling like it’s out to get you. Your brain gets stuck and you can help unstick it. I’m no guru or doc, but I have been in the ER countless times in the past, also had a gazillion procedures, and even “talked” my way into a mental health unit briefly because I simply could not deal with the pain anymore. (Diagnosed with major depressive episode minus suicidal ideation). That’s where I finally got hooked up with a P.T. and a pain psychologist, and I was on my way to a better life. I do have some medication I use if my pain is nuts. But I get out of bed now knowing I can do this instead of looking at my Google Calendar to see when the next appointment in the revolving door is. (I also have low-grade recurrent bladder cancer, osteoporosis, and GI stuff. So I get the doctor thing. OY). My very best wishes to you on this difficult journey. May you find hope and help.

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@l73 I really appreciate you taking all this time to share your journey. For me, the motorcycle accident about did me in. I fractured nine bones, including the pelvis, sacrum, tail bone, pubic bone, back and ribs. I was a mess…in the hospital for five weeks including rehab. I did not want to die but didn’t want to live with the excruciating pain. After one year, I felt like I was healed. And then one year later the sitting pain started. I had a back doctor tell me that it was my back and did not one but TWO back surgeries all within six weeks. Aside from him making a ton of money, I think he was full of baloney. He knew that my pain was in my butt area but literally told me that the pain in my butt came from my back. My friends are husband/wife internal medicine doctors and the husband told me that tons and tons of people have herniated discs with no pain and don’t need surgery but I believed the surgeon…bad call on my part. As you stated, I, too, have had a zillion procedures. I love the direction you are taking. The program I took at Mayo Clinic is all about pain coming from the brain and I just don’t know why it didn’t help me, other than the fact that it’s compression pain from sitting. I am now wearing two stimulators…ridiculous! I sit with cushions and either ice or heat or put biofreeze on the area. The biofreeze does help. And, yes, I also have to travel to see my kids…two-hour plane to daughter and four-hour plane to son. But, I do what I have to do. Are you in any support group on Facebook? Would you ever consider connecting outside of this page?