People who ignore parents and grand parents

Agree! I'm so tired of being treated like the bad guy. My son hasn't spoken to me in 2 years. His children are the one that don't appeeciatecme.

We have our children present until they are 18 years old. After they went to college, got a job, got married, moved out of parent's house, etcetera, their parents are no longer their priority! Sad reality. We as parents feel hurt, but we need to be understanding, and if they ignore mom on Mother's Day, mom should take the high road and remember them on this day and text them a virtual card, Remembering you all on Mother's Day! and leave it at that. As we age, we need to focus more on our own welfare and health. Be open arm and loving if the children come to visit, but do not get out of your way to remind them of your existence! Happy Mother's Day!

When the last child leaves home and you realize that the home of eight is now an empty nest, rejoyce! You are not quite back where you started. The home is bigger than the first apartment you started life together. You know more about living so enjoy.

We don't build multigenerational (three or more) houses any more. If you really want your children to live forever with you, then don't ever let them travel on their own. Foreign exchange students learn how big (and small) the world is and they will want more. My second son went to Germany on foreign exchange in his HS senior year. Wasn't quite sure what he wanted, spent two years at UofM and then went to the Air Force Academy. As a result he spent 27 years in the Air Force. Recently, he and his daughter started a business and their product will out soon.

My oldest son proved the current job situation of don't expect to work for a company for thirty years. He has switched jobs several times. He would start at the bottom and within two years, be a manager. He learned that being a shift manager in a restaurant is a tough job requiring that you know how do every job since there days when someone doesn't up and you don't have enough people, you get to do that job as well as manage. He maintains a positive attitude, understands the service part of every job and soon rises to the top of the heap. He gains knowledge on what works and what doesn't and tries to apply that knowledge to the job and business. Occasionally, his manager doesn't initially agree with him. Until he explains his findings and they try his solution.

I'm not going to discuss my daughters at this time. They are different from my sons, dramatically different.

Wow, as an adoptive mom of 2 and a step mom of 2, I’ve had my share of typical raising kids grief and joy. Now they are in their 30’s and 40’s, all married, 3 have children, all different personalities. I am done raising them and they make their own decisions. My husband and I are here to offer advice if asked (rarely speak up unsolicited) and ready for any heart to heart conversation if prompted. And sometimes we have issues we need help with and we call on them to help us.

I was raised catholic, 12 years of catholic school, my parents took us to church every Sunday and were strong believers. I’m a “recovering” catholic. Did not raise my kids in the catholic faith structure but instilled the values I learned. My parents NEVER gave me grief about my decision. They let me live my own life, make my own decisions and supported me in ways that I wanted/needed. Nor did they ever preach at the dinner table. I have little tolerance for anyone who preaches their values/beliefs unsolicited especially if it comes off as a criticism of how I live my life.

But, having shared all that, and thinking about the original post, maybe she should think about what Jesus would do in the same situation.

@moylandavis

Another thought I had about our children is to consider the teaching/learning we give our children is a debt not repaid to us but rather paid forward to their children. I have found my self often in a listening mode as they describe their problems. When my youngest was at college and met her love, both of them would call me often with the opening Q of "What is wrong with this man/woman?" which was my clue to go into listening mode. I had a manager who taught this method to me. I would go see him with "I have a problem." Explaining the problem almost always allowed me to solve it. Then I would thank him for helping solve the problem. His reply was, "Don't thank me, you solved it yourself!"