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Adult Grandchildren ungrateful or what?
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: May 11 5:04am | Replies (87)Comment receiving replies
@frouke
I have one old-fashioned niece. Her girls send me a handwritten thank you card for gifts.
I strive to give with no expectation of return or thank you, but it is difficult and I do get my feelings hurt when I hear nothing, plus sometimes just knowing it was received (like a gift card) is a matter of wanting to know hey, did it get to you? Anyhow, it’s a hard one and clearly I am not alone in having feelings about kids not saying hey, thanks!
And worry is not a problem for me - i don’t have to worry about anything - so I will gladly win the lottery and enjoy spending it or giving some away. 😊
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@willow5 Agreed.
My parents brought us up as young children to write thank you notes for gifts we received and couldn’t say thank you in person. There came a time when they stopped checking whether we had written. It was on us to write or not write.
Not saying thank you for a gift from a loved one is just rude. Even if you didn’t like it! You just thank the giver for the kind thought. You don’t have to lie and say you liked it if you didn’t.
It’s not healthy feeling resentful and getting stressed/upset by others’ bad manners.
So I simply stopped buying expensive gifts, and making a big effort to find just the right gift, for those who couldn’t be bothered acknowledging the gift and ideally letting me know how much they loved it.
I still buy them gifts but just don’t go the extra yard so it doesn’t hurt if the gift drops into a void!
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@willow5 I love buying and giving gifts and give for the pleasure of giving, not expecting anything in return, because I rarely got a gift growing up (it was a cultural thing - gifting was not the norm). A simple thank you, however, does feel good - and says a lot about the recipient … not to mention the parent(s) of the younger recipient.