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Helping adult son who has depression
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Jan 22, 2023 | Replies (30)Comment receiving replies
@daveshaw Thank you for your response. My husband isn't very communicative about his depression. He says it is treatment resistant. I am not sure what meds he has been given in the past. I get vague answers from him. Currently I know some meds his Dr's will not allow because of his heart condition. I did check with attending Dr's about that when he was in the hospital at one time. They confirmed that was accurate. He considers himself "independent" and goes to his dr appts alone. We married late in life. His first/only marriage....at age 65. He wasn't particular used to sharing things!
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@crabby55 You didn’t mention you married a man who at 65 had never been married before. I think that fact along with fact he has ignored his depression his entire life leaves you very few options.
My first thought is for you to cut your losses and leave the marriage. Obviously you are younger and deserve to be happy. From what you tell me that happiness will elude you if you stay in this relationship. People don’t change at 65 unless they have some incentive to change. Unfortunately it sounds like your husband enjoys being miserable.
Good luck to you but don’t ruin the rest of your life living with a lost cause. Life is too short. It is time for an either or conversation. Either he allows you to help him or you leave.
Sorry to be so blunt but someone has to want to change and he doesn’t seem to want to change. His Doctor seems totally over his head.
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@crabby55 ps, yes, I am aware he has a choice. He doesn't always feel he has a choice. Sad and difficult to watch him go through this and to live with him going through this. Especially when these are definitely our later years.