@rythymblue Welcome to the forum! I also have a not so even tempered spouse. She also is OCD. When I was her caregiver (She is in remission now.), it was very hard not to lose my temper. I was taking care of a very independent person who wanted to be in total control. She never reached the point of needing residency. She swallowed her pride to a degree, and I learned to be composed to the best of my ability. If she had been worse health and without control of her temper, then I would have considered residency. I think it all depends on each person's limits. Decisions like this are not easy and not black and white. I think I would have gone to the caregiver social work staff for help in making the decision.

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I can. My 81 yr old husband is not even tempered at all. He is exhausted from taking care of me, his 75 yr old wife, that is me.
Care giving for 24/7 is not an easy job.
We hired people for few hours and they demand more money that we cannot afford.So, we are again back to square one. No end in sight.
VJ

@rythymblue I can. I have a man who speaks harshly, Calls me names, complains constantly and does the opposite of what he should or could do. He has LBD and is so cruel. I had a friend come over and stay a couple of hours so I could go to the Dr. He did not speak or acknowlege her..She is friends with both of us. At night he might say just about anything. It usually is something that I won't repeat. I am tired and cannot sleep most nights ..going through this for many years does not always make you feel loved and appreciated.