@debbiest I read this thread, since I responded earlier in it the person who wanted to move and her husband didn't. I agree, it's complex. I suggested from her note, that she be closer to family which might help her as I'm alone here tending for my husband, and none of our kids are in the area. We're in a community that isn't very friendly, so there aren't a lot of friends. His brother and sister are in another state. So I guess it depends on just how involved you are with friends where you live, and they outweigh, being closer to your adult children if you move. It's all so hard to figure out, even more so, because the partner you once had who could help you make decisions can no longer make them so you're in this alone,. I agree. I think it comes down to what's best for the caregiver in all of this, and short and longer term. Fear of the unknown makes it even more confusing, as moving just isn't easy.
Best, Karla