@debbiest PS, you can tell I never give up, my best trait but sometimes my worst trait. I guess it's good if you're a caregiver. What I know.....and what I want to share. Full speed ahead, which means, once you start cleaning, you don't stop, because you lose momentum, you just keep plowing through, to get him to where you need him to be = in Vermont. It's no easy task, and I know that, but you have to courage to keep the pressure on, even if it's silent pressure in the things you're mentally doing to finally get there. It's the addage, with your children, tell him, tell him again, tell him again, and I don't know if this would work, but I remember when I moved my Eddie from Cape Cod, with his heels dug in - four years later because I kept the pressure on, he finally moved. Just keep inching the inchworm, with the things you do, so you can mentally carry through. There's no stopping us now! Yikes I sound like a motivational speech. Sorry...Best, Karla
Best, Karla