@carolreid I can appreciate your dilemma. I am wondering if you could talk to your husband about downsizing and simplifying your lives. I am at the stage in my life where I need to simplify and downsize the home that we have lived in for 45 years. So I am slowly going through the house collecting things that we will never use again. For example my husband's and my ski clothes and accessories. He did woodworking as a hobby and had and has lots of tools for that. I have sold about half of them already. I am giving away certain things to people who I know would like to have them. I am donating his clothes that don't fit him anymore as he has lost so much weight. You could do the same without having to bring up the moving issue with your husband. In my mind, it will have to be done at some point anyway so I would rather do it when I am not pushed for time and not getting any push back
from my husband. This way if we have to move at some point a lot of the work will be done.