Hello:
I also do most of the chores, although my husband is capable of doing most everything still. If it's time to clean the house I usually have to re-do what he's done.
One thing I learned from a class I took, is do not do for them what they can do for themselves (even if they need guidance), because 'learned helplessness' can set in and get worse and worse till they're doing nothing. Keeping them engaged is a challenge but important so they don't deteriorate faster.
All the best to you. 🌺