Shocked by aging process

Posted by seniormiz @seniormiz, Jan 25 8:54am

My fingernails and toenails stopped growing and just keep breaking off. My hair is falling out. My memory is not as sharp and sometimes I feel a little woozy. I hate this. I want my body and my senses back.

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@nycmusic I believe this question was meant for @ray666. I can't answer it! lol

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@bjk3 whoops, thanks for telling me.

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@nycmusic I believe this question was meant for @ray666. I can't answer it! lol

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@bjk3 Good morning! How to answer this … how to answer this and yet keep it in line with the topis ("Shocked by the Aging Process") … mmm? That's a toughie. I won't say I'm "shocked"––more like "astonished"––when I think about how much age (and in my case, too, peripheral neuropathy) has sped up the change in me from "ability" to "inability." A couple of performance examples that demonstrate this? When I was in my late 50s I played George in Albee's "Virginia Woolf," without a competitor the biggest part I've ever played (number of lines). It took me only a few weeks of morning coffee and kitchen pacing to commit all four acts to memory. Today, I blanch to think I'd once had the ability to learn so many lines in so short a time. Rolling forward to the present? The next-to-the-last show I did was the musical "Ragtime," in which I played the part of Grandfather (what else? :-): a comparative handful of short lines (no big speeches) which, no matter, demanded seemingly endless cups of coffee and weeks of kitchen pacing to memorize. Does that help to illustrate, from my working life, "Shocked by the Aging Process" (with a dose of neuropathy thrown in)? It does me! 🙂 –Ray (@ray666)

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@bjk3 Good morning! How to answer this … how to answer this and yet keep it in line with the topis ("Shocked by the Aging Process") … mmm? That's a toughie. I won't say I'm "shocked"––more like "astonished"––when I think about how much age (and in my case, too, peripheral neuropathy) has sped up the change in me from "ability" to "inability." A couple of performance examples that demonstrate this? When I was in my late 50s I played George in Albee's "Virginia Woolf," without a competitor the biggest part I've ever played (number of lines). It took me only a few weeks of morning coffee and kitchen pacing to commit all four acts to memory. Today, I blanch to think I'd once had the ability to learn so many lines in so short a time. Rolling forward to the present? The next-to-the-last show I did was the musical "Ragtime," in which I played the part of Grandfather (what else? :-): a comparative handful of short lines (no big speeches) which, no matter, demanded seemingly endless cups of coffee and weeks of kitchen pacing to memorize. Does that help to illustrate, from my working life, "Shocked by the Aging Process" (with a dose of neuropathy thrown in)? It does me! 🙂 –Ray (@ray666)

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@ray666 I feel your pain! It certainly was a wake up call to find myself in the position of having a young soul and a body that is wracked with pains and falling apart.

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@ray666 I feel your pain! It certainly was a wake up call to find myself in the position of having a young soul and a body that is wracked with pains and falling apart.

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@seniormiz

Me too.

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@ray666 I feel your pain! It certainly was a wake up call to find myself in the position of having a young soul and a body that is wracked with pains and falling apart.

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Hi, @seniormiz. I have the greatest empathy for those of us PNers who are, as you say, wracked with pain. I'm blessed with the kind of PN that doesn't cause mee pain but has a devilish field-day with my balance. Although I'd just as soon be rid of my PN, I'd rather be wobbly than be tortured by PN pain. My heart goes out to all those whose PN has them wracked with pain. What I do to keep my performer's soul in good spirits is memorize poems; I memorize them and then recite them aloud (unless I see that my cat has placed his paws over his ears 🙂 ). It's nowhere near the challenge and pleasure of being in a show, but it's something. And sometimes even "something" is deserving of our gratitude. // I wish you all the best, seniormiz. Cheers from the Rockies! –Ray (@ray666)

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@hopenr
My everything was failing me... Hrt really helped my hair. Then now, high quality collegen ( 4 different peptides), creatine, and protein (100 g)+ a day. Has helped my creaks and energy and skin. Please check it out....

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@dalexis00
Would you mind telling us what brand and where you get it from?
Also, when you say it has helped your skin do you mean it has helped with crepey skin?
Thank you

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Oh, I hear ya! I am not accepting my aging well. It feels like it happened overnight. I was feeling great and loving my age and then all of a sudden I'm having all sorts of different medical situations. I am also overwhelmed with the thought of how many years I have left, which leaves me with many regrets and personal disappointments. I will be 61 in March.

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@seniormiz @bmbwa99362
It does catch you off guard. Up through my 50’s, I was so active- walking around campus still feeling I was in my 20’s. Bammo- then came my 60’s and all sorts of things started surfacing. I find that the more you fight aging, the more depressed you can get. I just try to do the right exercise, diet, mental health support, and etc. Yes, I’m fighting cervical dystonia, osteoporosis, and balancing other oddities, but I can’t let it all “win” and get me down. My mom always said to fill your well with positive things. This can be hard when you get up in the morning and scream (aghast) at the image in the mirror! lol.
Who in the heck would believe that our skin would just hang there-even with diligent exercise (where’s my muscle tone- what happened to my rear-end? Good gravy)? Many of us are struggling with very serious illnesses/conditions. Our focus is in finding the right support to help us maneuver these struggles, find answers, and continue to get well, overall. Don’t think of the time you have left. My husband used the analogy of a yardstick and point how much time he had left. I finally hit him with it! Live each moment; surround yourself with positive thinking, supportive people; and thank God (others) for each day to live again.

And yes, if anyone finds a miracle moisturizer, a great exercise for improving muscle tone (or heck, maybe a body girdle)… let me know. 🙂

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My mom was a very wise woman and also a holocaust survivor, she was a POW for five years and lost her family including young ones. She always told me to keep my sense of humour and not to take myself too seriously, if I ever bemoaned myself about getting older she would say, then die young, I know it sounds harsh but there’s a point in there. I lost her a while ago and now I’m almost 75 years old and in my sixth year lung cancer survivor, believe me when I say that you’re privileged to get older because so many people don’t get to experience it including children, God bless you.

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@frouke God Bless You 🙏🏻❤️

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I think what has shocked me is all the negativity in society about aging. I never noticed it until I turned 65. Suddenly, it seemed age was a huge issue. I’m still energetic, productive and vital. I’m still young in spirit and definitely healthier than I was 15 years ago. I think the term old is subjective. So, I think what shocks me is how others perceive seniors and not my own health. I’m actually surprised I don’t have arthritis, high cholesterol, heart problems or fatigue. I’m very grateful.

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@celia16 It’s sad that our country doesn’t revere and respect the elderly as other cultures do. Their wisdom, experience, and guidance are invaluable.

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...am coping at 82 and ill.. thing is I just don't have the physical energy and mental capacity left to deal with it all... but I "do" think of others worse off, I do think of those who did not make it to adulthood or have lived with pain and illness since being young: what isnt helping is insomnia and cant take sleeping pills due to eye pressure etc and while awake alone during night think of my childhood, my parents long gone in another country, the things i wish I had done, sad times and am finding it a bit difficult to reflect on happier times - although looking at photos from holidays etc helps a bit during day but I did have some horrible times I coped with and when I do sleep my dreams are visit and usually stressful: but I am doing my best. I envy seniors who seem much happier than me!

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@lacy2 Please reach out to people and talk about your feelings. Don’t struggle with this alone. Don’t BE alone. Have someone to encourage you to go outside, walk, enjoy the outdoors. If family snd friends are not nearby, reach out to local community centers (senior recreation centers; someone mentioned the Y; Silver Sneakers is a great site to visit and enjoy online classes). I’m sorry you are feeling this way. Hugs from me.

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