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crabby55, you seem to be staying neutral but have the thought that maybe your husband isn't a safe driver. I'm glad for the sake of your relationship that you are letting him remember and letting the DMV decide.
It surprises me that the DMV would accept a third hand report originating with a neighbor to suspend the license. The police report should be available to you. Looking dazed while driving is both subjective and vague. My neighbors son hit the neighbor's garage door after the same pedal mix-up. No one talked about taking his license; they bought him a new car.
Do you think your husband is protecting himself from labels or really doesn't recognize his depression. Even more than hoping for resolution over his license, I hope he can get free and free you of his depression.
I hope he is willing to try the block. I've read the most wonderful reports on success with PTSD.
https://veteransinpain.org/blog/f/a-veteran%E2%80%99s-sgb-story.
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@gently thanks so much for the link and especially for reaching out. I will revisit this and look into it in the morning when my brain is fresher.
I thought looking dazed and confused while driving quite subjective as well. That was written on the letter from DMV stating his license was revoked. My hubby thought that came from the police. I told him it couldn’t have, they have never watched him drive. We live in California where there has been some controversy over “older” drivers. My husband is 78. Perhaps I will go ask for the police report. I chalked most of it up to the neighbor being oddly difficult.
My husbands depression and some of the ptsd stuff didn’t start until he retired and had time to ruminate. He had always been a workaholic which kept all that pretty much at bay. Unlike in the story and what u hear with many veterans there isn’t any acting out. The biggest issues are detachment and depth of depression. In going thru the VA programs several times “they” decide my husbands ptsd isn’t that bad (another subjective and vague opinion) even though the VA acknowledges both the ptsd and depression. In fact we’ve been told that until he deals with the ptsd that he won’t get rid of the depression but then they say his ptsd isn’t enough to garner more treatment.