Hello all,
I am so tired of hearing the word "loved one" or the person you "love" has MCI and how to deal with the one you "love." Sad to say, I do not love my husband. There, I said it out loud. Because of his needy, easily offended, demanding and silent treatment when he didn't get his way from the get go, he destroyed the love I had for him during our dating days. The man transformed from a fun loving happy guy overnight, literally overnight! But I had committed to keeping a family together and I was pregnant so I sucked it up all these years (53) for my kids and grandkids. Now, after all his medications, surgeries, mental episodes, his 20 years of blaming me for his unhappiness, I have to hear all this gushy love stuff from people who had good marriages....I'm so exhausted but trying to look at the bright side as well. Because he can't remember, he actually is easier to be around in that way but incredibly needy and dependent on me for his security (!)....So there you go, I think if I had good memories of our relationship I could be more compassionate - I'm so envious of people who actually Love their patient/spouse. That must be so nice.