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I can't say whether his dizziness, imbalance, has anything to do with dementia; however, if he is anything like my husband, saying "please" or that you are concerned (rightly so), will not sway him from doing what he wants to do. I'm going through so many arguments with my husband about his being outside in the yard or in the garage, but he insists. He is blind and it is dangerous! After several bizarre actions and forgetfulness, even though he wears a device that will notify me if he falls and I have an indoor and outdoor camera, I have hired someone three times a week as a companion for 3 hours so I can go to the gym, run errands and go to art class for peace of mind. Of course, my husband says he doesn't need a babysitter. He was diagnosed with mild cognitive dementia last year.
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@mlougw my heart goes out to you. I can’t imagine having to worry about blindness on top of dementia. I love your idea of hiring a person for that purpose, as we all know we need to take care of the caregiver too! I will have to start learning what resources are available in our area, as I do believe that will be something that would help us both! I’m sure finding “the right person” was tricky for you. Best wishes, and thank you for your thoughts!
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@mlougw This must be a common problem, so why is there no solution for us? It is "deja vu all over again" for me: second marriage, second caregiving burden and second stubborn husband who cannot be reasoned with. I am trying so hard to get a diagnosis of his cognitive state but none of his doctors want to go there. They want to play me against him on what is going on, to the point of making us mad at each other. When the neuro-psych examiner told me that a diagnosis of cognitive disorders would make no difference, I nearly had a nervous breakdown at the Barrow Institute. Why else were we there? And of course it makes a difference TO ME, who has to decide if something he said or did should be treated kindly or piss me off!