@gussie
You Too sound like So Many of my childhood, College, & young Adult Friends. & I Too am in my 80's (in another 2 years - 90). Although my family wasn't Jewish, 2 of my BEST Friends Were. They followed the "1960's Script for Young Women" ... & both were divorced before our 30th Birthdays. I was standing by to watch the heartbreak in their family's.
Both my Parents (born shortly after 'the turn of the 20th Century') fell into the Marriage Trap when they were young. Both divorced #1, & re-married +- age 30. They Both cautioned my brother & me against marrying before finishing our Education, getting out in the world, enjoying the Freedom of being "foot-loose & fancy-free", & gaining a little of the wisdom that comes with Maturity.
Parents Need to start those lessons when their children are very Young, point out the advantages & Pit-Falls if you Rush into marriage too soon. I think one of the Most Important lessons my Father passed on to me was: 'If You Meet someone when you're young & You & this person 'Fall In Love', it It's For Real, you'll both wait for one another.' He Was So Right. I met My Husband when I was 14. I remember saying to myself, "When I grow up & I'm Ready to get Married, I want to find someone JUST LIKE HIM! & You'll Never Guess ... He Waited For Me to reach the age when I was ready to say "Yes". I was 28 when we walked down the Aisle ... & I consider myself "One Of The Lucky Ones". We had a little over 30 years together.
Before he died, he told me: 'After a period of Mourning I should look for another Husband & re-marry'. Well, That Was 32 years ago, & I haven't found anyone yet! If That's A Measure of True Love, I guess maybe We Had It!