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As a caregiver, what helps you the most?
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I feel your pain, all of you. I've been caring for my husband these past 5 years and, as I've become saddled with taking care of EVERYTHING, have come to respect his earlier steady, unheralded contributions to our family's wellbeing. He is a fine man, something I remind myself of when this formerly mild-mannered, always in control of himself and generally good-humored man, goes ballistic in uncontrollable fits of rage.
Now that all the household, financial and medical responsibilities, plus his care, have fallen on me, I am doubly grateful for all he did for us all those years. But playing catch-up, while caring for him, has been among the hardest things I've ever had to do. It's helped me to remember that nothing in life has ever come easy. I seemed to be running as hard as I could all though my life, whether it was becoming the best I could be in my chosen profession, or raising a child, then changing course and learning to be a teacher, also giving it my best.
So, it's helped to look upon this latest trial as just another challenge. I've still so much to learn.
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@maritah49 I understand your situation. I am in a similar one. Caring for my husband, and I do everything, and have to be 100% financially responsible. It's been my biggest challenge in life thus far. I keep telling myself, there's a reason this is happening. There is something to learn from it all. The ol', "that which doesn't kill us only makes us stronger".
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@maritah49
That's great that you are taking such good care of your husband and have for 5 years! I admire you for that! I was in a similar situation taking care of my husband when he had lung cancer. He died in 2024. It is very hard on one to take good care of a loved one and handle everything else too! But we do it because we love that person. There were those times when I was so tired! But I'd give anything to have them back with my husband now! However, I know he's up in Heaven and we'll be reunited eventually in God's time. Still, being left behind is very lonely!
What really helped me and my husband was prayer. God was there for us through the whole ordeal. Prayer is still helpful to me in this very lonely time without my husband. I will say a prayer for you and your husband.
I wish you the best.
PML