@rashida It’s difficult to understand my brother’s intentions, or reasoning, at times. I suspect he could be a high functioning person, with a spectrum disorder! With that in mind, along with his unsupportive remarks, I feel that he may be pushing me away!
I think he doesn’t want to hear about my health problems, because. he seems to be infatuated with my sister, who looks like, and acts a lot like our Mom. My brother was what you might say ‘a momma’s boy’! My Mom and I had a completely different relationship, then my brother had, with my Mom. I left home in my senior high school year, because my parents both physically and emotionally abused me! I had to live in an unfinished basement, at home, while my brothers and sisters had their own rooms. My parents did not physically abuse my brothers or sisters. I did not invite my parents to my high school, or college graduations. My parents never gave me a penny for college, and would not sign any college loan papers for me!! I put myself through college, with scholarships, and worked 2 part time jobs! My parents signed college loan papers and paid for most of my brother’s college education, all the way through law school! He is a very successful lawyer, who takes good care of my sister’s needs. She is divorced, retired, and lives in an apartment, living alone! So, that’s the background, and my brother criticizes me, and never, ever, criticizes my sister. I reckon he must really not care about me, or my well being! My sister is a hypochondriac, who, perhaps because she is overweight, uses a cane, and travels in a wheelchair, but has no physician’s diagnosis, to support a disability. So, my brother always seems so concerned with her well-being. She complains quite often. If she doesn’t want to do something, she complains that she has a headache! I was diagnosed with migraine headaches many years ago, and was. prescribed medicine! The vascular migraines that I get , occasionally, can be very debilitating, yet I seldom complain! Who knows why my brother may think I’m exaggerating, or that he may think that ‘it’s all in my head’! I have all the proof needed, including my Mayo Clinic diagnosis, to prove all of my ailments, and my daughter sent a picture of. me, lying in my hospital bed, recently, when I was hospitalized for my heart implant! I, originally, did not know this, but my sister called my daughter, and asked her to take a picture of me in the hospital, and send that picture to. her, and my brother. My sister is a master manipulator! So, my daughter obliged. Sorry about the long diatribe, but there is such a background of the way that I was raised, compared to my brother and sister, and, perhaps, that has a lot to do with why they both feel they can denigrate me, at will! I was not part of their lives, too much, before my Mom died, tragically! Perhaps it would be best if I walked away from them both!!