Until I was able to understand its only a bad habit, I couldn't quit. For decades I drank, smoked and used drugs. I tried 12 steps, Smart Recovery and religion to no avail. The identification stigma of believing I couldn't quit because I was an addict and alcoholic kept me believing that I was lost. By finding my locus of control I was able to strengthen my personal agency. And by realizing the strongest locus of control was internal, I was able to stop. Since December 5th 2021 I haven't had a drink. I was drinking a fifth of cheap, warm, gasoline tasting vodka a day for over a decade. Yuck! I have no idea how I'm even alive. But I did it. I believed in myself. Its not a disease or an allergy or even a spiritual failure. I dont smoke. I dont do weed or thc. And as mentioned, I no longer use alcohol. I was in a wheelchair in 2020 because of lumbar failure. I now walk 12000-20000 steps a day unassisted. My best day was last October with 17 miles. Motion is medicine. What you tell yourself the most, you will come to believe. Start telling yourself that you can do it! Because you can! Tell yourself the things YOU want to believe. Not the things others say to or about you. Believe in yourself. Tomorrow morning and every morning afterwards, tell yourself you are the master of your own destiny. One day you will come to believe it.