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I need a way to handle the following. My husband and I are finally selling our house that we have lived in for 45 years. Needless to say there’s a lot of work involved in going through all of the books, drawers, closets, garage, basement, attic, etc. and deciding what to take and what to give away or throw away. We are lucky that the buyers of our house want a lot of our furniture.
My problem is that my husband thinks we do not need a mover and can do all the packing and moving in batches. I can barely get through each day helping him cope with his memory loss, handling all the meal prep, house maintenance, and financial management without also worrying about packing and moving. Any suggestions?
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@grandmajoan Get a mover, regardless of what hubbie thinks. My husband and I were forced to move out of house due to mold and water damage (that wasn't covered by insurance). It's been a fiasco, in and out of hotels, rentals, now we're in a rental until our house if fixed and i can sell it. which means another move. I couldn't have done it without the movers, the first time, with plans to get the mover again to where ever we go. Now I'm just trying to get into storage (the units not crammed packed) and try to get rid of things. It's been a fiasco. Your situation is mine and that of every caregiver, meal prep, doctors appointments, MRI's, petscans, infusions, financial management and making all the decisions, PS, get a mover. start sorting through your stuff, box it, and have your husband tape the box. That's where my husband came in, unless you are sorting "keep" piles, and having the movers box everything. Forty-five years in a house accumulates a lot of things. "Get a mover."
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@grandmajoan That is a lot! No question.
I do part-time work as a home organizer and one of the services we provide is packing and unpacking. I can tell you that, if it's possible, it's worth every penny. Professional packers label, organize and box anything and everything and when you get a team of several people, you can get your entire house done in a day. They bring all the packing materials (and that can be a lot) and then that giant headache is gone. Also, if you'd like, they can unpack and organize everything in your new place. A very, very stressful situation is lightened.
Maybe maybe .... explain to hubby that it's not possible to get it all done and you're going to ask some nice people to come in and help. Maybe maybe... plan for hubby to do something that day if possible so he is not distressed by the activity. You can still do the "moving" yourselves but at least it's all ready to go and you can rest easy.
Definitely try to get some help one way or the other though. We know our clients can get easily overwhelmed in this situation and that's in the best of circumstances. You have another level of stress with your husband's memory and all your other responsibilities.
God speed to you and yours.