Masturbation at late age

@olderandwiser since we are on the topic… my wife also on had an orgasm from oral sex for the last several years. I convinced her to let me try a vibrating sucker and she reluctantly agreed. She loved it and seem to reach orgasm quicker than ever! Now a few years it seems no manger what I do she can’t quiet “get there”. We both regret she can not reach orgasm and I wish I could fine a way to fix that. I have been searching for something that may help but no luck yet. Does anyone have any suggestions to help? I had never heard of a vibrating sucker before a lady in a store told me about it and it worked great. I hope some one may have another” secret weapon” that can help her achieve orgasm again! Any suggestions are welcome.

@jiminos I was scheduled for HoLep surgery a couple years ago but ended up with Turp Surgery. I was told that semen wouldn’t come out from my penis. After having a good wank a small amount of clear fluid comes out Ingues better than nothing I miss the white semen.
Do you still see semen after a wank?

@billybwbf2
Wow, for what you wrote you truly care for and love your wife. That is the greatest thing you can do for her is continue your love. Hopefully everything else might fall into place as your searching.
Paul

Can I ask how old you both are?
I ask because once my wife reached her late 60s she also cannot reach an orgasm no matter what we do and how hard I try. So, if anyone has any ideas or secret toy, I could use the same help. I hate that I can still enjoy a great orgasm and she can't. I would love to be able to share a great orgasm with my wife like we used to!

@olderandwiser we both just turned 80! Unfortunately, I had a prostatectomy in October 2026 which has put me out of commission at least for now so penetrative sex not an option I can offer. Leading up to my surgery I was counting on oral sex and her favorite toy to continue her enjoyment but recently I just can’t get her there.
I understand your desire to share great orgasms with the wife, I think of it often! It’s funny, mind was has always been reserved and conservative but every time she had an orgasm she was a screamer! It gave me great satisfaction to see her have a screaming orgasm which to me was a “gold standard” success on my part! Now that she can’t get there it really disappoints both of us!
One thing I might suggest for you is that you buy her a “Satisfyer Pro2” which is an “air pulse stimulator”.
As I said in an earlier post a woman in a “store” told me about it when I was trying to buy something a couple of years ago to enhance her orgasms. The lady raved about how effective it was so I bought one! It lived up to is recommendation after I got her past her reluctance to try it. Now she love it and asks me to use it for her. Not to be crude but it was called by the lady at the store a “clit sucker”. As all husband know the little area is a big factor in female satisfaction. It is a hand held device with a soft cup that fits over the clitoris. It both vibrates and sucks at the same time. It works well and quickly!
As I said recently even with that she has not been able to “ get there” recently but it has been great for the past two years and she has absolutely loved it! We are old couples just trying to hang on to our sex lives a long as possible so pleas don’t misinterpret this as something strange. I could send you a picture of the item in the original box if you want. Just let me know. On here or by private email if you prefer. I think they sell them on Amazon! Just let me know!

@stevebritt006 No more nights in white semen for me either. I had to call my surgeon a few weeks after surgery and ask if there was something wrong with me. She said we did discuss it. I didn't remember. It's called retrograde or dry ejaculation. The clear fluid, pre-cum is normal. The semen goes into the bladder. My urine is a bit milky after sex. It took a little getting used to and I do miss it too.

Yes, when we were young guys we never realized what a special gift it was when we could shot huge amounts of semen. We took it for granted! I too miss being able to shoot semen but after my radical prostatectomy those days are over!

@billybwbf2 Billy, sorry to hear that. There is so much stuff out there, probably much of it bogus, that I hesitate to encourage the sex toy industry. However if you haven’t looked, Amazon has their usual, gigantic alternatives. In general my only specific suggestion is adding some gentle anal stimulation. I have been amazed how otherwise very traditional women, choir members, welcome something up the but to get off. When all is said and done, for both men and women it’s all about having an orgasm. That’s why this site exists.

@dhabeger
You are correct! It took years to finally convince my innocent wife that inserting in the rear was ok and when she allowed I immediately saw her chances of having an orgasm improved greatly!

@billybwbf2 I wish my partner would allow me to insert my penis in her butt. She says it’s where poop comes out and not healthy. I did it many years with a young girlfriend and she liked it. In her Vagina my cock it doesn’t feel very tight in there and takes a long time to cum.
Sometimes I like masturbating better. Called a good Wank in England.