Best underpants after prostate removal to protect from leaking?
My husband is having prostate removal surgery and I am trying to find appropriate underwear to prevent leakage. Please help.
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@ryszardhereta
I bought "Natural Feelings Boxer Briefs Mens Underwear, Soft Cotton and Spandex" on Amazon.
He wore Jockey bikini briefs his whole life but now he still wears these when he goes to bed since they are so comfy ; ) (even though his continence fully recovered).
I am wishing your husband super successful surgery and complete eradication of cancer < 3.
Forgot to add - cause I always say it here - if going with boxers, *please* buy blue or gray ones.
https://shop.tena.us/collections/mens-incontinence-underwear
White pads are fine, but white pants makes you feel like you're wearing nappies/diapers.
And that's important to a guy.
This whole thing is an emotional roller coaster, with so many changes that no-one asked for.
It starts with the biopsy - lying on a hospital bed half-naked.... feet in stirrups, exposing all of Nature's gifts.
Then some dude in a lab coat walks in, sees you trussed up like a roast chicken, then carries on like it's just another Tuesday.
The emotional impact of this stuff is often hidden - and small things like wearing diapers has a big emotional impact.
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Thank you so much.
@jayhall Confused on the up position (my surgery is 3 weeks away). If you do leak with your penis up, won't it spill up and out of the brief/pad rather than into it? Thanks
@peterj116 No doubt on the emotional stuff. I ordered some gray Tena "underwear" (what they call the pullups) and they sent the old version that was white with some funky gray stripes. I was like...NO WAY! I'll look like a psycho clown with pee problems. My wife said no one was going to see me in them. But, like you say, I would know. Returned those pronto....got to keep some bit of dignity.
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2 Reactions@fritzo I'm an unwilling expert on that subject.
By default, it tends to point down/sideways.
The effect of that is that as well as filling the pad, the angle means it spills into the side of the pad - and leaks into the side of the underpants - necessitating an underwear change.
Not fun when you're at work, which I usually am.
So I always take 2 pairs of underpants in my work backpack - and at one point, I also took a spare pair of pants.
It got to a point where I'd used up all of my spare pants by 10am & had to go home.
Not fun.
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Ha ha, oh my , Fritzo, you made me laugh now, you guys are just too cute sometimes LMAO "psycho clown with pee problems" !!! ahahaha Well, only you would see it that way, trust me ; ). BUT, it is important to have things that make us feel better, no matter how small or trivial ! It all adds up and helps with healing, both mentally and physicaly. My husband continued to weight his shields for a month AFTER he regained complete continence, and I am sure it was because it made him feel good when he saw on a scale that he really healed. I never asked but I am sure that it was the reason and I just let it be < 3. : )))
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