@mayers May I ask what type cancer? In 2017 I was diagnosed with serous papillary endometrial cancer. Stage 2 high grade. (Similar t ovarian cancer). My oncologist told me this is very recurrent and aggressive. I freaked out. I was put on regimen of carboplatin and taxols - 6 treatments and then 4 brachytherapy. Never got nausea -yes the hair and brows and eyelashes fell out- that was horrible- but I went to a great wig place had gorgeous wigs -people asked me where I got my hair color!! Since I was dating - I mastered eye pencils and makeup - and I must say I looked ravishing. Now 9 years later I am still free and clear-touch wood . I also used major ice packs for feets and hands and never got neuropathy. So you may want to rethink the chemo plan- I even did Zumba on the 4th day after infusion. And I was all alone- no one with me. But I made it- I am 77 now and those days are just a blur now.

@mayers my first time i was on carbo/taxol...i was told locally that they could offer me comfort care...not an option imo because i was dealing with my best friend and his pancreatic cancer also and his only caregiver..., i went 4 hours away to a teaching hospital with a WONDERFUL cancer program where he was getting chemo...i was stage 3c, ovarian throughout my abdomen, went through 7 surgeries that year including 2 for skin cancers one of which i had to have nose reconstruction for ...yea the nausea and hair loss sucked, i went through i think everything possible it seemed but i honestly think i was more scared this time.. prob because i don't remember so much last time since i was dealing with his...
i think you should consider the chemo, BUT that is YOUR choice, no one can make that for you, however i was beyond was the local docs thought was treatable and they were wrong lol...of which i've told them so when i see them...(yea i tend to be opinionated but if i don't advocate for myself who will) yes the side effects suck but i rocked those wigs, i even had a blue one, my son who was in florida had one made from his hair (Can't find that pic"), i had a bright red one, one that was kinda the color of my hair before i started getting gray that looked really natural and a couple of wig caps that looked like i was just wearing a ball cap over my hair.. they were great...
attached are a FEW of my various looks while going though the hair loss etc ( I had about 20 wigs, amazing what i found NEW at yard sales lol)...i kept my favorite wigs in case i ever needed them but donated the rest to the cancer center for others going through it...it was like everything else...i dealt with it all with humor (including the go away shirt lol i had matching leggings with smiley faces on them) and even dressed as an elf when i was in for my last surgery in Dec 2024...i have that pic somewhere if you'd like to see it...gotta say i really didn't look good as a blond unless it was my ball cap one so i didn't share those LOL