@elainer12
see apology at end:
Yes. There is a way. I keep hearing a theme of (male) anger that you have to deal with. We men can be angry in a general way if we feel unsuccessful (failure), have low self esteem, feel we have been cheated in life, or that everyone else is doing better (house, car, money).
The anger is usually connected to a crummy childhood-parents reminding us that we're stupid, worthless, burden. Look at Stevie, he's smart.
The hurt (trauma) ranges from abandonment to neglect to beatings and worse.
It can be intergenerational. Father's can teach their sons to take an angry approach to everything and everybody, making for a self fulfilling prophecy of failure.
The feminine (mother imago) is seen as the saving grace. When she turns out to be only human, and can't mystically cure the wounds making everyone happy 😄 (watch Beauty and the Beast) she gets trashed as weak or a betrayer.
I don't know the dynamics of you and your family members, but I hope you're not caught in this web.
No one can be devoted or caring enough to fix them, but you can take better care of yourself. Find a good counselor. Pursue an interest or passion you have. Stay connected with up beat friends. Follow and join in on Mayo.
Do it slowly. If the men sense a withdrawal or lack of attention, they get even angrier because there's no one there to absorb their crap or soothe them.
In short, take care of yourself and find a way of handling them. They want a good mommy, but need a good shrink.
I apologize in advance since I said all this without knowing any details of your situation. I hope it rings true.