Isn't venting great. Especially with a group like this of experienced care givers who deal with brain fog loved ones 24/7. Does it hurt? Of course. We wouldn't be human if it didn't. I can only speak on what I am dealing with. My husband's brain fog seems to come and go. When he is up and functioning on all 4 cylinders, I speak calmly to him about what his reaction to some things recent have been towards me or others. His personality changes and he becomes grumpy and swearing at everything including me. I tell him about it and what he said and how I perceived his comments. I tell him what he forgot and what I forgot. We laugh at each other. He apologizes and then I get him to write down in his journal in his own words what we talked about. The next time his attitude strikes and he forgets something and blames me, I hand him his journal. I respect his privacy and never read it. That tattered paper journal has helped calm him so many times. Why? I haven't a clue, but I hear him laughing. Sometimes he shares...most times not. This may not work for your situation. Know I am nearly 8 years into cancer treatment for him and thank God my wonderful silly man is still with me.