I understand the surprise to hear a diagnosis...I just found out last week I have Breast Cancer, Pagets, a very rare cancer. I am one of those people viewed as super-fit, super healthy lifestyle, etc. did/do all the "right" things that doctors say to prevent cancer...lol

I have always reminded my kids that sometimes you can do all the "right" things, but still get sick cancer, etc. It means accepting we cannot control our destiny in every way.

Maybe the shock has not hit me yet, but one thing I do that helps is focus on internal peace..I like to say the serenity prayer a lot...if you are not religious, then even Buddha Zen wise man, says "Live well, Love well, and LET GO." It means to me, do your best, then just be peaceful.

If you focus, I have found, on believing that some good, some unintentional, unexpected good, will come from life's pain and trials, I think it give hope which gives peace. Peace helps to heal I believe. So, if you carry internal burdens, like anger, or not forgiving yourself for past mistakes, etc..I think you get peace when you do let go of the past and focus on the beauty of today, the gift that you can still see the sky, walk outside, no matter how cold, hear a bird, and enjoy a simple cup of coffee...please know you are not alone..there are many people who love and support you and pray for you even if you do not believe...wishing you peace dear