@momma2lucy

I look at it differently. People get wrapped up in their own lives and the stories that they have about their lives. It can seem like indifference and sometimes it is. I have to be really careful because I can get into stories having to do with expectations about others. Tricky territory expectations....we can project them onto others and if we don't catch ourselves doing it all manner of drama can ensue. There is a book I like called Let Them by Mel Robbins. I've found it useful in my own struggles In human relationships..other animals are so much easier for me.

@momma2lucy When I read this, I felt sad, "...you only matter to most people for what you can do for them and once they don’t need you the connection fades..."

I am having the opposite experience - when I give to others, I get a feeling of peace and fulfillment that doesn't require any affirmation other than a simple thank you.

The way to feel useful is to make yourself useful. But, as we age, sometimes the shape of that changes - no longer can I jump in and haul rocks or wood for a neighbor's yard, but I can bring them plant starts and teach them how to care for them. When I take a class at the local volunteer-operated Art League, I cannot schlep tables and chairs, but I can cover them, set up papers and supplies, and generally help the instructor.

In the winter, I live in a mixed community with many seniors like myself, but young families as well. Over 18 years, I have observed that the most content people are those who reach out and connect with others, even in small ways.

@momma2lucy every case is different as to the person, i lost 26 years with my daughter because of a nasty divorce and now that we have found each other a few years back she doesn't want to lose me now even with the serious TBI i had and two brain surgeries. i can only say that i am blessed to have the family i now have. Have a blessed day today.

@momma2lucy I would not call you cynical; you have your priorities straight and boundaries established.