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@surftohealth88 I truly appreciate your words of encouragement and sincerity. I am finding extremely hard to find therapy that is specific for my situation. I know I need someone in “Trauma” or perhaps PTSD. Many of those are veteran geared. The others are 99% female. I have absolutely nothing against females in the profession but I have intimate “Man” things to talk about. Many therapists are fairly young females and of those that specialize have geared themselves for sexual abuse. It is a real conundrum. I have so many feelings it is incredibly surreal. I even feel guilty posting on here. Although I am going through everything others are that HAVE cancer…..Im not a cancer survivor! It is just so messed up! My mind is twisted, my anxiety keeps my heart rate pounding and then my depression keeps me from functioning at all.
Thank you again for reaching out!
☮️ Dingus
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@dingus1 so sorry for you having to suffer the after effects of a prostatectomy after never having cancer! I agree you should get legal advice for the very real reason that a mistake like this should never happen and when it does some one needs to pay to insure it never happens again!
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I completely understand your pain and there is no reason for you to feel guilty for being here and I am 100% sure that nobody in this community would judge you in any way ! You went through cancer scare and cancer treatment and had the same experience as somebody who really had a cancer. On top of that you are now with PTSD and anxiety and probably even feel violated in many ways :(.
Since you are in so much emotional pain, I think that removing the edge of all those emotions could be the first step in your recovery and you might consider taking some mild anti depressant or anti anxiety medication that your GP can prescribe. That way you will possibly be able to collect your thoughts, have better sleep and better concentration and than could make further plans for future steps necessary for healing.
There are many sex health therapists around that are male , you just need some time to find what you are looking for. I understand that you might feel more comfortable with a male doctors when sexual health is in question, but PTSD is PTSD , and anxiety is anxiety no matter what is causing it and the methods and medications for those are the same for both male and female patients.
Try also to be patient and gentle with yourself, your trauma is fresh and even surgery was pretty recent : ((( , so take small steps and little by little you will heal both physically and psychologically. You are already making big steps toward recovery because you are actively seeking help and looking for a therapist - that is a BIG achievement in itself. Don't forget that passage of time provides healing too !
All in all, you have been through a lot but healing is possible and it WILL happen < 3.