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Worry of overwhelming husband and mom

Posted by mygoodgirls @mygoodgirls, Mar 13 5:57pm

As I am new in my diagnosis, I am filled with lots of emotions as well as lots of worries and questions. I find myself texting my mom everyday with questions/worries (she is a retired nurse) and bombarding my husband with my emotions/fears/research. (I am all cancer, all the time.) I worry that I am putting too much on them ...right now a great majority of my conversations with my mom and husband have to do with cancer and
I know they are scared and worried too... how do I use my two biggest supports but also be also take care of them as they are in this too?

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katgob | @katgob | Mar 13 8:06pm

my good girls.

This is a place to come and lay it all out. All your fears. First your diagnosis as there are mentors on this site and plenty of people like me who have walked this road. I would love to be one who supports you. Your Mom as a nurse in her career knows so much and i bet loves you so much, so fear not so much there. But if you feel you want to lay it out.
This site is amazing with the people around the world who understand.
Knowing more about your diagnosis would be a great start for others to give hope and experience.
You are not alone on this journey. We are here.
breastcancer.org is another site. This one here, Mayo is the most helpful.

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Ingegerd Enscoe, Alumni Mentor | @astaingegerdm | Mar 14 6:23am

@mygoodgirls
Welcome to Mayo Connect!
As said by @katgob above, this is the place where you can talk about any worries, concerns.
You say that you are new to the diagnosis- does that mean that you don’t have a treatment plan yet?
It’s normal to have emotions- it’s a scary diagnosis. I remember myself 34 years ago- my head was spinning.
I felt better once I knew what I had to face.
There should also be breast cancer support groups locally- through your hospital maybe.
I think your mother is happy to talk to you and support you.
Husbands often get as scared as you are! They also do well to take part in the treatment planning.
Hang in there! You will feel more in control once you know what is ahead for you.
I thought of it as a job I had to do. However, that didn’t stop me from having emotional episodes!

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mygoodgirls | @mygoodgirls | Mar 14 7:28am
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@mygoodgirls
Welcome to Mayo Connect!
As said by @katgob above, this is the place where you can talk about any worries, concerns.
You say that you are new to the diagnosis- does that mean that you don’t have a treatment plan yet?
It’s normal to have emotions- it’s a scary diagnosis. I remember myself 34 years ago- my head was spinning.
I felt better once I knew what I had to face.
There should also be breast cancer support groups locally- through your hospital maybe.
I think your mother is happy to talk to you and support you.
Husbands often get as scared as you are! They also do well to take part in the treatment planning.
Hang in there! You will feel more in control once you know what is ahead for you.
I thought of it as a job I had to do. However, that didn’t stop me from having emotional episodes!

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@astaingegerdm
Thank you ❤️

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mygoodgirls | @mygoodgirls | Mar 14 7:31am
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my good girls.

This is a place to come and lay it all out. All your fears. First your diagnosis as there are mentors on this site and plenty of people like me who have walked this road. I would love to be one who supports you. Your Mom as a nurse in her career knows so much and i bet loves you so much, so fear not so much there. But if you feel you want to lay it out.
This site is amazing with the people around the world who understand.
Knowing more about your diagnosis would be a great start for others to give hope and experience.
You are not alone on this journey. We are here.
breastcancer.org is another site. This one here, Mayo is the most helpful.

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@katgob
Thank you ❤️

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Miriam, Volunteer Mentor | @mir123 | Mar 15 3:33pm

It is touching to hear your concerns for them, and they obviously can show their love and concern to you. You know, you might just share your gratitude with them along with your concern about overwhelming them. Maybe you already have? My husband and I did something a bit unusual when I was in the throes a diagnosis for a rare breast cancer. We drew up a little contract, saying what the other person could depend on us for. For example, he'd drive me appointments. That way I knew he felt ok about it and I didn't worry each time. Treatment was emotionally much easier than the uncertainty and confusion of the start. Wishing you all the best--so great you have this kind of support.

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mygoodgirls | @mygoodgirls | Mar 15 5:08pm
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It is touching to hear your concerns for them, and they obviously can show their love and concern to you. You know, you might just share your gratitude with them along with your concern about overwhelming them. Maybe you already have? My husband and I did something a bit unusual when I was in the throes a diagnosis for a rare breast cancer. We drew up a little contract, saying what the other person could depend on us for. For example, he'd drive me appointments. That way I knew he felt ok about it and I didn't worry each time. Treatment was emotionally much easier than the uncertainty and confusion of the start. Wishing you all the best--so great you have this kind of support.

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@mir123
Thank you ❤️

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